3.3. Individual coaching session

One morning a young man from a Middle Eastern country enters the counselling centre for migrants where he wants to determine his personal objectives and have his competencies assessed. He is very keen on participating in a language and vocational training programme. It is not the first time he has spoken to his counsellor but he has never been as serious about his objectives as he is now. He knocks at the door, enters the room and greets the counsellor. The counsellor greets him in return and asks him to sit down. The young man sits down but instead of waiting for the counsellor to get down to business, the young man asks him how he is and how his holidays were. He had noticed the counsellor was away because he had seen a note on the door a week ago when he had happened to pass by. The counsellor is a little surprised to be asked about his holidays. Nevertheless he replies that his holidays were very nice. This encourages the young man to ask further about where he had been for his holidays, and to ask whether he had been away by himself or with his family, and how old his children are. The counsellor’s surprise slowly turns into irritation. He has the impression the young man wants to know everything about his private life and he doesn’t know how to stop him.

Why do you think the young man asks so many questions? Please read the possible answers and choose the most probable one. More than one answer can play a role in the situation.